“Perspective, Meet Mentality”

Perspective is a funny thing, and it goes hand in hand with mentality.

post-image_checkperspectiveThere are times when each and everyone one of us can lose focus on the things that truly matter in this world. This could be a significant world topic, such as the daunting idea of Trump potentially becoming President, or whether or not the side with your salmon dinner should be creamy mash, or baked potato.

I mean, let’s get down to brass tacks here people. Some topics and issues require us to hone in, think a little harder, and truly deliberate on the matters at hand, so that we can move forward in creating a more kind world, finding solutions to arising social problems, creating efficiency, and basically  acting as one awesome network of humans.

But, then we experience the people seeping out from the lovely network of awesome humans, unfortunately, who kind of don’t belong with the awesome humans at all. It’s these people who seem to bring about a negative perspective, attempting to spread their gloomy and hostile mindsets throughout every situation they’re experiencing, even the trivial and low-key moments. There is a time and place where this should happen: not when deciding what way we’ll be cooking our potatoes, if you will, but more so when discussing Trump’s rise to the presidential podium, for example. These, of course, require two different perspectives, and totally different mentalities.

This idea of perspective and mentality “adjustments” can also be appropriately applied to scenarios in a family restaurant. At any given time guests at a table can target their most explosive rage and angry facials, a few gestures and shouts-from-deep-within-the-diaphragm at the waitstaff attempting to do their job, simply making sure their guests are satisfied. With their obnoxious ordeals, these [what we thought might have been] one awesome table of humans can simply transform your day (or week, month, etc.)…all because they could not pause for a moment and rethink what they were going to say and possibly alter their perspective to understand that maybe, just maybe, there are other topics surrounding us that could use that energy. This would clearly improve our awesome network of humans. Why would you lay it all out on the waitstaff at a family restaurant?What gets accomplished? What good does this create? Nothing, and nothing.

3 scenarios at a restaurant, that should cause you to pause, think, ‘n check yo’ perspective.

  1. The small garnish of julienne veg is, well, too small and apparently “embarrassing and disgusting”.

First of all – it’s a garnish. Secondly, you didn’t order the item for the garnish. You’ve ordered a main item and will be paying for that main piece(s)…not the garnish. Did you know: Italy recently had a 6.2 magnitude earthquake, and there’ve been hundreds of fatalities and missing people? OH WAIT, better get you a better garnish of veg for your hot meal first, before we actually discuss something of importance.

2. The TV channel is not what you want to watch and you aren’t able to aimlessly wander to every table in the restaurant for trial viewing prior to your meal.

Like, who cares if you can’t watch something that you want to watch on the tube, when you’re dining out? Sit, give your eyes a break, chat with your company. If you’re dining solo, do some writing or make a phone call. Did you know:  Fort MacMurray, AB recently experienced a devastating forest fire, destroying 2400 structures, 10% of the city, and forcing 80,000 people to evacuate? BUT WAIT, let me hunt down the remote, attempt to change one of the multiple TV channels, and find the perfect seat for you to experience your show, before you start shaking your head and sighing at me, as if the day is now ruined, that you cannot sit in front of one of the many TVs, watching what YOU wanted to watch, comfortably, under a roof, that isn’t burnt to the ground.

3. Your food appears to be taking a “long time” so alerting your server with an indirect question or sly comment to make it seem as if they did not correctly perform their job, should speed up the process.

Do you honestly think when making an employee feel guilty, wrong, and doubtful about their position during a shift, that you will improve the timing on your food and create a better experience? Chances are your server now has a tarnished feeling about your table and since they frantically went to double check that they put in your order, the pressure they’re now feeling from your piercing stares will not dissipate until you’ve left for the evening. They are aware your order is in, the restaurant is probably steady with other orders, and not all items take the same amount of prep/cooking time. You’ve successfully caused them to delay another order from going in, because you doubted them and they had to retrace their steps. Did you know: having more patience can result in a better mood and better mental health, more positive energy, and greater empathy for those around you? Why would you not practice more patience? Sure, feel free to ask a question to your server, but you can surely be genuine, understanding, and a decent human being when doing so.

Three scenarios from a restaurant is certainly not an abundance of examples to portray a variation in perspective and mentality or how you see the world. However, I think it surely drives the point home in terms of “checkin’ yo perspective”, for how you can be a member of the awesome network of kind humans. Or you can sit on the other side of the table, and sprinkle your gloomy and insensitive remarks throughout the duration of someones shift, day, week, or longer. Who knows? You could impact someone quite easily with just one poor uninformed remark. Be mindful!

Not all scenarios are as simple as deciding which way to cook and prepare your potatoes (namely, Trump), but keep your perspective in mind when your stomach begins to growl. Your mentality can change the world…and permit your entrance into the awesome network of kind humans. Your mixture of hospitality and empathy will result in the creation of a richer locale, even without the exchange of money. 



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